The crab bucket mentality-
If you place one crab in a bucket it will climb out to sweet freedom, but if you place multiple crabs in a bucket they will pull down any crab that tries to climb out.
Sounds a lot like the people in this world, huh?
It’s the “If I can’t have it, neither can you” mentality.
Pulling someone down will never help you reach the top.
Unfortunately, that is how the world acts towards many forms of success. You know the feeling, you get the promotion and your co-workers smile and high-five you only to start the grumbling process once the break room door shuts behind them.
There are always going to be people in your life that try to bring you down. Most of the time they don’t even realize that they’re doing it. It’s family, co-workers, friends, peers. Any time you set a leap-of-faith sized goal someone is going to have something to say about it.
I have been running for 6 years and I have heard it all. I’ve always been a 5K runner and going any further than that didn’t interest me. For 5 years I ran for speed or even just to take an easy run around the block a few times to clear my mind. Last year, I set my eyes on a larger goal, to run my first half marathon. I remember my friends and family saying things to me like “That’s a good goal, but don’t do too many of those” or “That’s not really good for your body, so maybe you shouldn’t run as often”. Those are direct quotes. I get this crap all. the. time. When you set a large goal for yourself it intimidates others, whether directly or indirectly.
Sure, any large goal you set is going to hurt a little, whether it’s physically, financially, or socially. Sometimes it’s a combo. But, what would your life be like if you didn’t decide to reach for the stars? How happy would you be with your life?
Failure is going to happen. You won’t win them all, and that’s ok.
When you set your goal high you will fail before you succeed. Every successful person falls before they fly. Don’t let failure stop you. Oprah was fired from her first TV anchor job and look at that boss now!
Walt Disney was told that he, ‘lacked imagination and had no good ideas’. My childhood strongly begs to differ.
“I think it’s important to have a good hard failure when you’re young… Because it makes you kind of aware of what can happen to you. Because of it I’ve never had any fear in my whole life when we’ve been near collapse and all of that. I’ve never been afraid.” – Walt Disney
Did you know that Vincent Van Gogh basically had to beg people to look at his art?! Do you know how many paintings he sold during his lifetime?
He sold ONE. And it was right before he died. (The painting is called, ‘The Red Vineyard’)
There’s also this small guy that you probably haven’t heard of named Michael Jordan. He was cut from his high school basketball team for not being good enough. He’s just ok, I guess.
I could go on and on but you see what I’m getting at? Don’t stop during the process. It took Thomas Edison something like 9,000 tries to make the lightbulb and instead of thinking that he failed 9,000 times he said that it was just a 9,000 step process. (I don’t know that 9,000 is the exact number, but let’s not get caught up on semantics.)
People will give their opinions on your goals and ambitions. Let them offer their words of caution or “advice” and then thank them and file them away. Don’t let anyone discourage you. Only you can live your life. And on the flip side, when your friends and family tell of their dreams do not discourage. Allow them to come to their own conclusions. Instead of pulling people back into the bucket of reality let them dream. Let them fly. Be an uplifter. Be an encourager. Be love.
“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” – Suzy Kassem
Love you all,