I know, I know, it’s been awhile. I am so sorry about that.
Usually I would have a wonderful post about the amazing things that have been going on in my life but today isn’t one of those days. I want to talk to you all about something real, something that isn’t talked about often, mental health.
In my opinion, we don’t talk about quality mental health as often as we should. It’s hard, it’s semi-offensive (meaning, it strums the heart strings) and my God we need to talk about it.
Most of you know that my husband Eric and I are going through a hurdle of personal challenges. Challenges that wouldn’t be a challenge had I noticed the signs. But I didn’t. And then it blindsided me. Eric is an amazing guy, but we both have a lot to work on.
Depression is a real thing. It’s not just a temporary sadness or funk that you struggle to get out of. Sometimes the ones who struggle are the ones that you think have it all together. It is, in fact, a sadness but it also comes with lack of self-control, self-confidence, self-worth and ultimately it allows Satan to creep in and push you away from the one who holds the glue, Jesus Christ.
I’m not here to preach to you. Nor am I here to try to convict you to believe in something that you don’t believe in. BUT, there is a higher power. We are so small in this world. Infinitesimal. We have to listen. We have to watch. We have to help. The Universe will always guide us in the direction that is best for us, but we have to listen.
I’m in a place of hurt as I write this post. It’s taken me weeks to even fathom the idea of talking about this. But if I didn’t say anything then I would be doing the world a disservice. I’m here to tell you that it’s ok to fall. It’s ok to fail. It’s ok to learn and it’s ok to grow. No matter what that looks like.
Every person on this planet struggles at some point in their lives. I don’t care if you’re poor, living in a hut or completely loaded living in a mansion, we all struggle. And that’s ok. It’s ok.
Please, you guys, please keep your eyes open to those closest to you. Have meaningful conversations. If someone is participating in things that are not healthy please have that conversation. Ask questions. Be kind but be firm.
My whole life is dedicated to helping people find their self-worth and ultimately their true happiness. I was so caught up in teaching and preaching that I didn’t even know what was happening under my own nose.
We all need to stop every single year and ask ourselves:
How am I?
How do I feel?
How are my goals coming along?
What even are my goals? (Set them, y’all.)
How am I? I know I have already said this, but check in again.
What are my values?
Do I need to talk to someone?
AM I OK?
What is my heart telling me?
How do I overcome? Or grow?
How can I be fulfilled?
How can I serve my church or community?
How can I serve my family?
I truly believe that we are put on this Earth to serve. To serve the world, to serve our church, to serve our community. Being a part of a community gives us a sense of belonging. Especially those of us who have been out of high-school, even college, for some time now. It’s easy to stay involved when you’re younger but why is it so hard once you’re “grown-up” (whatever the heck that means)? Where does that mental block come from?
I’m so social, I love it, I thrive in social settings. But most people are extremely uncomfortable in those situations. In fact, some of you are uncomfortable right now just reading this. And if you are, then I am talking to you. I am talking to all of you. Find your place. Find your comfort. Join a local charity and volunteer. Hate talking to people? Volunteer at a local animal shelter (preferably a non-kill shelter). There are so many food banks that you can go to and help package meals for those who are less fortunate. If you have a unique skill, share it. I am a 200-RYT yoga instructor and I teach a donation based class a week at my church and I then donate the funds to a local charity.
I have found an amazing app called go.deed that will tell you all of the places in your area that are needing volunteers. These options are anything from 5K races to homeless shelters to walking an elderly person’s dog. It’s amazing and you should download it. By the way, I am just a normal girl, I do not get paid to blog about different apps or products. I will, however, post about things that I find valuable to my life. I will always share tid-bits of knowledge to make life a little bit easier.
Find a global organization that you believe in and contribute to it. Find something in your country that you believe in and support it. And find something local that you can be proud to be a part of.
I’m not here to tell you that volunteering cures mental illness, I’m not. However, I do firmly believe that plugging yourself into a community of do-gooders that it will provide you with a sense of belonging, a sense of community, a sense of self-worth. And as you grow within these communities you will learn more about yourself, meaning you will be able to hone in on those God-given talents to find the exact place that you feel well in, and therefore you find that sense of belonging, that sense of gratification.
I want you to know that you’re ok. I’m ok. And the world is ok. We just have to stop from time to time and truly check-in with ourselves and the ones around us. Hug someone today. Buy someones coffee. Genuinely smile at a stranger. High-five a kid. Smile at yourself. SMILE. AT. YOURSELF. This world is so beautiful, but how beautiful would it be if we all smiled? Let us try.
Below you will find some resources that I have found helpful, these are not my own but I encourage you to check them out.
The values sheet above is a wonderful tool, simply print it off and check it often. This is not a worksheet that I have made, rather a sheet that I have been using and finding value in. Minimal Wellness is a great resource to use for maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
I love you all. Thank you for taking time today to read, to listen and to DO. Get out there and make this world a better place.
Love love love,